Motivation of the upcoming Japan series

I have been wanting to write a series of articles about my feelings about Japan, the journey that I have been through, the growth I have experienced and the paths that I will be led to, for a very long time.

As a girl who was born and grew up in Shanghai, having lived in New York for over 10 years, and now working for the largest bank in Japan, I have seen and experienced a mini global world value system inside myself gradually forming.

Many people understood and appreciated the advantageous parts of American culture, but on the hand, I think Japanese culture has been under-rated, or to say the least, over-simplified therefore misunderstood.

The culture by-products such as food, tourism, music, movies, on the other hand, have been globalized… but i think the value of those things do not reflect even 1 tenth of the beauty of Japan. The value of these byproducts are dampened by way too many times.

It’s not surprising because Japanese tend to express things implicitly. They are too modest to pass along their beliefs directly through words themselves. (Come on, for a nation of people who wouldn’t even use the word “No” in daily conversation, do you think it’s possible for them to preach their values and enforce on others? Few people who have traveled to the country not like it.

This series about Japan is based on my own journey of discovering the beauty of Japanese mindset.

Culture and values shape all aspects of human interaction. In fact many conflicts that i have seen in life could be addressed and solved through the understanding of cross culture perspectives.

Last but not least, even if you don’t care about Japan, I truly believe from the bottom of my heart, implementing  these values from Japanese traditional philosophy would increase happiness of one’s own, make people’s relationship with each other more harmonious – living better spiritually, as well as life quality - slowing down, and being present to enjoy every aspect of anything at the moment, experience and enjoy things like drinking a cup of green tea peacefully at ease.


The Unbearable Lightness of Being 生命不可承受之轻

Saw Sebastian Marshall today. It was a really powerful experience. It’s like meeting the me three years ago.
I miss the me who reads and writes a lot.
Interacting with him in person also made me realize that the reason his writing is so powerful is because he is a very nice and kind person with charisma and willing to take the lead.

(我们在点单时、他说服务员都很kind, please do tip them) 在social event 的过程中,他辗转不同桌子,照顾到大家的conversation topic. When he hears someone’s need, he would say, I do know someone… let me put you into contact with someone there.    Networking: you know someone do sth, if you could help facilitate Then you are truly adding value.

Elliott told me to write a memoir. It will be very powerful and influential for others to read.

Reading Sebastian Marshall’s blog makes me realize there was a dream of doing something wonderful deep inside me.

Coming across Sebastian Marshall and that whole bunch of entrepreneurs, taking courses at General Assembly, Toastmasters and fantasied about making changes was also once part of my life and path, my dream.

People like Sebastian has already inspired and lived a longer life than many of us.
Most people see Sebastian’s talents; I see Sebastian’s admirable personal character and leadership charisma first.

Blogging, writing books, and hosting meet ups for blog readers
The friends like that are quite meaningful and fulfilling.

Sebastian recommended laotsu.

其实生命重有重的活法,如Sebastian, ikigai (travelled, written so many words to inspire others..) . 用老子的方式,stoic 的方式去影响别人。


生命不可承受之轻。其实overthinking would def leads to unhappiness.

Sebastian 的眼神是清澈的,其实不论走哪条路,最重要的是活得坦荡,坚定自己的价值观。

日本也好,Sebastian 也好,真正震撼人心的,是无私的付出、真诚、满腔的热情、以及行动力和自我约束力。

Wherever you are, you can outperform others through inspiring.

Dream to date

My future dream would be to live in Tokyo and Paris each for a year with you while traveling around domestically and to the surrounding neighbor countries in Asia or Europe; make some meaningful friendship at each place; let our future babies experience different culture since they are young.

Perhaps I will eventually settle in somewhere (like the metropolis New York). But who knows, I’m open to anything as long as I could have you sharing my dreams, making step-by-step plans, with an outlook of being able to live the life to the fullest.

Life is short enough; and the future is ahead and always seems so close. I’m trying my best to reach out… So many things, so many encounters, after all, it’s the depth, length, authenticity and sincerity that matter.



What Professionalism Entails for Junior People

Things that matter the most sometimes lie in those details. I would like to encourage you to make improvement with me in terms of acting more professionally and really excelling on our jobs.

This is the target list I have made for myself, which could be helpful to many of my peers.

  1. Never be late.
  2. Always reply to emails within 24 hours.
  3. Clarify any assignment requirements.
  4. Boring job… make it organized, streamlined, and gamify it – try to make it fun somehow!
  5. Following others’ suit might lead you to certain opportunity.
  6. The “last 5 minutes” could really determine your work efficiency.
  7. Prepare, Study, Review… 
  8. Ask questions based on your notes!
  9. Work means constantly reviewing things that you might have learnt before.
  10. Take meeting minutes even your boss didn’t ask you to!
  11. Speak in the meeting, and make your voice heard.
  12. Networking starts from arranging the first meeting.
  13. Greet people energetically in the morning! :)
  14. In the case of leaving work early… See [ early on the day you plan to leave early. Be sure to stay organized all day — don’t get distracted! Plan ahead. If you  know you’re going to need to leave early on Friday, double-down earlier in the week so you can leave guilt-free. Notify your boss and co-workers ahead of time so that if they need your participation or input on a project, they’ll have time to get what they need before you disappear.
  15. Prepare – do your homework for the meetings
  16. Work involves learning by imitation
  17. Information needs to come from the original source.
  18. Motivate teammates.
  19. Communicate via emails and phone calls.
  20. Books – read and digest.
  21. Resources/Info – don’t just organize and collect. Make use of them immediately!
  22. Foreign language skills
  23. Not just your own work, knowing the big picture and context matters.
  24. Knowing the history of things related to your work
  25. Apply what you learned!
  26. Adding stress to your brain effectively! It’s necessary sometimes.
  27. Find the mentor that suits you.
  28. Take qualification exam, continuously motivate self.
  29. Newspaper reading, paper-based materials would be more ideal.
  30. Dine with people who’s not directly related to your work.
  31. Wear fitting clothes.
  32. Use humbled language at work is totally fine, as long as you know it would help you accomplish your job at the time.
  33. Be polite but not subordinating.
  34.  Keeping distance doesn’t mean unfriendliness. Sometimes it’s actually better.
  35. Respect older people.
  36. If you feel touched, definitely express it!!!
  37. Provide feedback to boss sincerely.
  38. Whenever making mistakes, think hard how to prevent it next time!
  39. See the underlying message of any criticism.
  40. Organizing meeting actually is a great privilege.
  41. If there’s a presentation, pull all your effort.
  42. Rest up well for work.
  43. Think of work with an athletic mindset.
  44.  Dislike-able people – indulge them. Dealing with them makes you stronger.
  45. Control the pace!
  46. Do not get too close with people of the same class.
  47. Complain only to those are not related to your work at all.
  48. Don’t go drinking with internal people
  49. Grow your savings.
  50. Manage finance by knowing your spend and budget well.

I will repetitively review the above list until having truly internalized everything. This might take a while, but we shall all make it there eventually!