Leaders are not happy.
Yes, I claim that there is a negative correlation between leadership and happiness. In order to understand my proof here, first you need to know about the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Please feel free to look up anything relevant and proceed.
Now that you got the most genius creation of personality theory, while the framework offers a perfect amount of information, and 16 groups are certainly granular enough for you to distinguish and slide the scales in each dimension, I found the Four Temperament theory even more intriguing.
In “Please Understand Me” by Keirsey, he did something absolutely amazing: mapping the MBTI 16 personality types into the classical 4 temperaments. Specifically, they are:
- NT (INTP, INTJ, ENTP, ENTJ): Phlegmatic, here called the Promethean or Rational temperament
- NF (INFP, INFJ, ENFP, ENFJ): Choleric, here called the Apollonian or Idealist temperament
- SP (ISTP, ISFP, ESTP, ESFP): Sanguine, here called the Dionysian or Artisan temperament
- SJ (ISTJ, ISFJ, ESTJ, ESFJ): Melancholic, here called the Epimethean or Guardian temperament
Several things caught my attention:
1) “The choleric temperament is fundamentally ambitious and leader-like. They have a lot of aggression, energy, and/or passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were choleric. They like to be in charge of everything. However, they can quickly fall into a deep depression or be moody.”
My comment: Leaders of aggressive nature could be powerful, but it’s hard for them to be sustainably happy.
2) On the other hand, there’s another leader type, we call them “Sanguine”. Check their description out:
“The sanguine temperament is fundamentally impulsive and pleasure-seeking; sanguine people are sociable and charismatic. They tend to enjoy social gatherings, making new friends and tend to be boisterous. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean sensitive, compassionate and romantic. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when they pursue a new hobby, they lose interest as soon as it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. Sanguines generally have an almost shameless nature, certain that what they are doing is right. They have no lack of confidence. Sanguine people are warm-hearted, pleasant, lively and optimistic.”
My conclusion: Be a sanguine type of leader. Then you could lead happily.
3) If your life goal is to be happy, then try to acquire a temperament of “NJ” (phlegmatic) or “SP” (sanguine). This makes a lot sense to me, because S is the pragmatic factor here, and P is the “go with the natural flow” and “how to be likeable” factor.
In the case of “NJ”, I do find a lot of people with “N” are incredibly smart, they make sense of things instinctually rather than with book knowledge, however, as you know, a lot of things in life, are counter-intuitive, with only “N”, the magic inputs, you cannot success; you would have to draw logical conclusions and make rational decisions in a blink of eyes or after some thoughtful considerations.
“NJ” and “SP” are balanced temperaments.
4) So the next question: could personality be altered? I would say, yes. Granted, people are born with certain character which we call status-quo, but you could really nudge any factor to go towards the other direction.
For instance, if you want to be sanguine instead of melancholy, all you need to focus is figuring out how to go from “SJ” to “SP” – basically try to live a more flexible schedule and lifestyle.
Additionally I believe the middle two factors are harder to change than first and fourth. With explanations as below:
- S/N is the input wire, which is the hardest to change.
- T/F is the output wire, which you could forcefully unwire, making decision not following your usual style. It may actually win you big at times while completely screw you over and make you regret otherwise.
- J/P is a life style choice, which is relatively easy to change.
- I/E is noticeably a situational variable, meaning it varies according to the circumstance, so I would say, it’s only easy to change if you could figure out what are the motivators for a person to become introvert or extrovert at a certain scenario, then start adding those supporting factors to the background (usually it’s some likeable (eg, hobby) or fun (eg, game) factor) , introversion or extraversion would naturally change.
5) Lastly, figure out what’s particularly important for you to be consistent or to be versatile. Take myself for example, I have an “S” in my MBTI, “S” is already in my blood, and “P” is a conscious choice – be flexible and have an open-mind to accept natural occurrences in life. In other word, “P” is a friend of “S”.
Also, “I”, seemingly on the opposite end, is also a friend of “S”. Why? Because sometimes you don’t have enough life experience or knowledge explicitly ready to have a good sense of things and make the right decision yet, in that case, you might as well go with intuition. In fact, especially in those cases, your hidden weakness, which you unconsciously try to deny, would be reflected and conquered. So being an “S”, use the INTUITION to decide whenever you are unsure.
Thanks for reading these five viewpoints. I’d like to get some original ideas out first. More thoughts to follow after I actually read the book “Please Understand Me”… =)
It’s time to make some changes this year. And if you’re not sure what kind of career resolution you should set for yourself, take a look at this list, and pick one or more!
1. Find a work mentor
2. Organize a volunteer activity
3. Record your achievements
4. Ask your boss for feedback
5. Set monthly goals
6. Remove the clutter from your desk
7. Be more prompt about answering emails
8. Find a new work buddy
9. Send more professional emails
10. Lend a hand to a co-worker
11. Take on a new responsibility
12. Ask for a promotion
13. Take a class that will help you with work
14. Go to more networking events
15. Update your LinkedIn profile
16. Delegate more
17. Organize work socials
18. Plan further in advance
19. Take vacation time
20. Wake up earlier
21. Send thank-you cards to show appreciation
22. Take a short break in the afternoon for a walk
23. Focus on the positives of work instead of the negatives
24. Read books related to your field
25. Find a better system for organizing emails
26. Offer to mentor someone
27. Pack your lunch for work
28. Do a better job of managing
29. Avoid office gossip
30. Take public transportation to work
31. Cut back on caffeine and sugar during work hours
32. Give positive and constructive feedback to co-workers
33. Ask for more feedback from peers
34. Don’t do work on vacation unless required
35. Don’t relay important news over email
36. File your expenses on time
37. Turn in projects before their deadlines
38. Seek out work when you have downtime
39. Take advantage of health benefits
40. Join your local Toastmasters
The inter-connection between food and fitness is always of tremendous interest to me.
Many people put little emphasis on mindfully choosing the right food and get what they need after an intense workout. Ironically though, that meal, in fact, is the most important meal for those physically active people who care about their health and well-being.
I used to have the same misconception and neglected the importance of specific nutrition absorbed right after gym. It got me so uneasy that I finally started to research a little more… Now with bits of relevant knowledge backed up by science, I feel more confident and in control of my diet after gym.
Hopefully after reading the following sources of articles, you would benefit as much as I do.
For Midday workout
- Salad with lean protein (chicken), beans and veggies, salad dressing
- Sandwich with soup
For Evening workout
- Mixed fruit bowl with yogurt and a few nuts
- Low-fat or nonfat latte and a Kashi granola bar
- Banana with peanut butter
- Trail mix
- Stir-fry shrimp, brown rice
- Sweet potato, 4 oz. sliced steak, broccoli
- 1 cup penne pasta with 4 oz. chicken and spinach in oil
Avoid these foods which can interfere with your workout:
- Spicy foods
- Broccoli or beans
- High-fat foods
- High-protein foods
Above is the most satisfying answer to my curiosity.
The original source from: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23058659/ns/today-today_health/t/eat-right-foods-after-workout/
There are some other helpful ones, not specifically targeted to the timing. But you may find some similar pattern in them:
- tuna+whole wheat bread
- turkey+cheese+ apple slice (eat only sandwich filling – that’s a great idea!)
- whey protein shake
- salmon+spinach+sweet potato
- tuna+brown rice+ veggie
- chicken+mix veggie
- egg omelet+avocado
The final one is about the repetition like above, but it’s APPORTIONED:
- Protein shake made with half of a banana, one scoop of protein powder, almond milk, and hemp seeds (excellent protein source)
- Salad with roasted chickpeas (½ cup), light olive oil and vinegar
- Sautéed or steamed vegetables (1 cup) with non-GMO tofu (½ cup)
- Quinoa bowl (1 cup) with black berries (1 cup) and pecans (1/4 cup)
- Multi-grain bread (2 slices) with raw peanut butter (2 Tbsp) and agave nectar
- Burrito with beans (½ cup), brown rice (½ cup), guacamole (2 Tbsp), and salsa
In sum, here’s the Golden Rule for you:
Protein plus Carb, but NOT fat. Because fat would be slowing down the digestion of protein and carbs.
Now, hope you, my dear reader, won’t be in the dilemma of what to eat post gym any longer!
#Be smart and enjoy Guilt-free Eating!!
Today I cooked this really health and delicious cauliflower soup as an appetizer for dinner. It was my first cauliflower soup ever, but it turned out so good that I have to share with you. The recipe is adapted from other sources online
This quick and warming cauliflower soup recipe uses the texture of cooked onions and cauliflower to make a soup from puréed vegetables. It’s a lovely start to a heavier meal, or serve it with crusty bread for a light dinner.
Note that I love vegetables! So the cauliflower, celery and carrots really give abundant nutrition which is mostly appreciated. Homemade broth would also greatly improve the flavor and nutrition value of this soup.
Prep Time: 10 minutes
Cook Time: 20 minutes
Total Time: 30 minutes
Yield: 8 cups
1 Tbsp. butter, plus 2 Tbsp. for optional garnish
1 onion, roughly chopped
1/2 tsp. salt, plus more to taste
2 cloves garlic, chopped
1 head cauliflower, chopped
3 celery stalks, cut into chunks
2 cups of baby carrots
2 cups chicken or vegetable broth
1/4 tsp. freshly ground white pepper, plus more to taste
1/8 tsp. freshly grated nutmeg, plus more to taste
In a large pot over medium heat, melt 1 Tbsp. butter. Add onions and salt. Cook, stirring occasionally and adjusting heat so onions are cooking but not browning, until onions look starchy and a bit creamy, about 5 minutes. Add garlic and cook until fragrant, about 1 minute.
Add cauliflower, carrots and celery, stir to combine, cover and cook 3 minutes. Add broth, bring to a boil, reduce heat to maintain a steady simmer and cook until cauliflower is tender to the bite, about 10 minutes.
Purée soup with a hand-held blender. Or, whirl in batches in a blender or food processor until smooth (place a kitchen towel over blender to prevent potential burns).
Stir in pepper and nutmeg. (Note: At this point the soup may be cooled, covered, and frozen for up to 4 months.)
Serve soup hot.
Cardio workout alone helps you lose weight and maintain the figure. However, it doesn’t tone your body, or make you feel strong and in-control.
Personally, I’m a big fan of strength and resistance training, such as power sculpt and pilates, combined with various cardio exercises (such as Zumba!!).
Here are some quick steps to jump start on your own!