Dream to date

My future dream would be to live in Tokyo and Paris each for a year with you while traveling around domestically and to the surrounding neighbor countries in Asia or Europe; make some meaningful friendship at each place; let our future babies experience different culture since they are young.

Perhaps I will eventually settle in somewhere (like the metropolis New York). But who knows, I’m open to anything as long as I could have you sharing my dreams, making step-by-step plans, with an outlook of being able to live the life to the fullest.

Life is short enough; and the future is ahead and always seems so close. I’m trying my best to reach out… So many things, so many encounters, after all, it’s the depth, length, authenticity and sincerity that matter.



What Professionalism Entails for Junior People

Things that matter the most sometimes lie in those details. I would like to encourage you to make improvement with me in terms of acting more professionally and really excelling on our jobs.

This is the target list I have made for myself, which could be helpful to many of my peers.

  1. Never be late.
  2. Always reply to emails within 24 hours.
  3. Clarify any assignment requirements.
  4. Boring job… make it organized, streamlined, and gamify it – try to make it fun somehow!
  5. Following others’ suit might lead you to certain opportunity.
  6. The “last 5 minutes” could really determine your work efficiency.
  7. Prepare, Study, Review… 
  8. Ask questions based on your notes!
  9. Work means constantly reviewing things that you might have learnt before.
  10. Take meeting minutes even your boss didn’t ask you to!
  11. Speak in the meeting, and make your voice heard.
  12. Networking starts from arranging the first meeting.
  13. Greet people energetically in the morning! :)
  14. In the case of leaving work early… See [http://blog.officezilla.com/leave-work-early/Arrive early on the day you plan to leave early. Be sure to stay organized all day — don’t get distracted! Plan ahead. If you  know you’re going to need to leave early on Friday, double-down earlier in the week so you can leave guilt-free. Notify your boss and co-workers ahead of time so that if they need your participation or input on a project, they’ll have time to get what they need before you disappear.
  15. Prepare – do your homework for the meetings
  16. Work involves learning by imitation
  17. Information needs to come from the original source.
  18. Motivate teammates.
  19. Communicate via emails and phone calls.
  20. Books – read and digest.
  21. Resources/Info – don’t just organize and collect. Make use of them immediately!
  22. Foreign language skills
  23. Not just your own work, knowing the big picture and context matters.
  24. Knowing the history of things related to your work
  25. Apply what you learned!
  26. Adding stress to your brain effectively! It’s necessary sometimes.
  27. Find the mentor that suits you.
  28. Take qualification exam, continuously motivate self.
  29. Newspaper reading, paper-based materials would be more ideal.
  30. Dine with people who’s not directly related to your work.
  31. Wear fitting clothes.
  32. Use humbled language at work is totally fine, as long as you know it would help you accomplish your job at the time.
  33. Be polite but not subordinating.
  34.  Keeping distance doesn’t mean unfriendliness. Sometimes it’s actually better.
  35. Respect older people.
  36. If you feel touched, definitely express it!!!
  37. Provide feedback to boss sincerely.
  38. Whenever making mistakes, think hard how to prevent it next time!
  39. See the underlying message of any criticism.
  40. Organizing meeting actually is a great privilege.
  41. If there’s a presentation, pull all your effort.
  42. Rest up well for work.
  43. Think of work with an athletic mindset.
  44.  Dislike-able people – indulge them. Dealing with them makes you stronger.
  45. Control the pace!
  46. Do not get too close with people of the same class.
  47. Complain only to those are not related to your work at all.
  48. Don’t go drinking with internal people
  49. Grow your savings.
  50. Manage finance by knowing your spend and budget well.

I will repetitively review the above list until having truly internalized everything. This might take a while, but we shall all make it there eventually!


Leaders are not happy – A few thoughts on MBTI

Leaders are not happy.

Yes, I claim that there is a negative correlation between leadership and happiness. In order to understand my proof here, first you need to know about the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator. Please feel free to look up anything relevant and proceed.

Now that you got the most genius creation of personality theory, while the framework offers a perfect amount of information, and 16 groups are certainly granular enough for you to distinguish and slide the scales in each dimension, I found the Four Temperament theory even more intriguing.

In “Please Understand Me” by Keirsey, he did something absolutely amazing: mapping the MBTI 16 personality types into the classical 4 temperaments. Specifically, they are:

4 temperaments

Several things caught my attention:

1)     “The choleric temperament is fundamentally ambitious and leader-like. They have a lot of aggression, energy, and/or passion, and try to instill it in others. They can dominate people of other temperaments, especially phlegmatic types. Many great charismatic military and political figures were choleric. They like to be in charge of everything. However, they can quickly fall into a deep depression or be moody.

My comment: Leaders of aggressive nature could be powerful, but it’s hard for them to be sustainably happy.

2)     On the other hand, there’s another leader type, we call them “Sanguine”. Check their description out:

 “The sanguine temperament is fundamentally impulsive and pleasure-seeking; sanguine people are sociable and charismatic. They tend to enjoy social gatherings, making new friends and tend to be boisterous. They are usually quite creative and often daydream. However, some alone time is crucial for those of this temperament. Sanguine can also mean sensitive, compassionate and romantic. Sanguine personalities generally struggle with following tasks all the way through, are chronically late, and tend to be forgetful and sometimes a little sarcastic. Often, when they pursue a new hobby, they lose interest as soon as it ceases to be engaging or fun. They are very much people persons. They are talkative and not shy. Sanguines generally have an almost shameless nature, certain that what they are doing is right. They have no lack of confidence. Sanguine people are warm-hearted, pleasant, lively and optimistic.”

My conclusion: Be a sanguine type of leader. Then you could lead happily. 

3)     If your life goal is to be happy, then try to acquire a temperament of “NJ” (phlegmatic) or “SP” (sanguine). This makes a lot sense to me, because S is the pragmatic factor here, and P is the “go with the natural flow” and “how to be likeable” factor.

In the case of “NJ”, I do find a lot of people with “N” are incredibly smart, they make sense of things instinctually rather than with book knowledge, however, as you know, a lot of things in life, are counter-intuitive, with only “N”, the magic inputs, you cannot success; you would have to draw logical conclusions and make rational decisions in a blink of eyes or after some thoughtful considerations.

“NJ” and “SP” are balanced temperaments. 

4)     So the next question: could personality be altered? I would say, yes. Granted, people are born with certain character which we call status-quo, but you could really nudge any factor to go towards the other direction.

For instance, if you want to be sanguine instead of melancholy, all you need to focus is figuring out how to go from “SJ”  to “SP” – basically try to live a more flexible schedule and lifestyle.

Additionally I believe the middle two factors are harder to change than first and fourth. With explanations as below:

  • S/N is the input wire, which is the hardest to change.
  • T/F is the output wire, which you could forcefully unwire, making decision not following your usual style. It may actually win you big at times while completely screw you over and make you regret otherwise.
  • J/P is a life style choice, which is relatively easy to change.
  • I/E is noticeably a situational variable, meaning it varies according to the circumstance, so I would say, it’s only easy to change if you could figure out what are the motivators for a person to become introvert or extrovert at a certain scenario, then start adding those supporting factors to the background (usually it’s some likeable (eg, hobby) or fun (eg, game) factor) , introversion or extraversion would naturally change.

5)      Lastly, figure out what’s particularly important for you to be consistent or to be versatile. Take myself for example, I have an “S” in my MBTI, “S” is already in my blood, and “P” is a conscious choice – be flexible and have an open-mind to accept natural occurrences in life. In other word, “P” is a friend of “S”.

Also, “I”, seemingly on the opposite end, is also a friend of “S”. Why? Because sometimes you don’t have enough life experience or knowledge explicitly ready to have a good sense of things and make the right decision yet, in that case, you might as well go with intuition. In fact, especially in those cases, your hidden weakness, which you unconsciously try to deny, would be reflected and conquered. So being an “S”, use the INTUITION to decide whenever you are unsure.

Thanks for reading these five viewpoints. I’d like to get some original ideas out first. More thoughts to follow after I actually read the book “Please Understand Me”…  =)

40 Tips to Help You Accomplish Your Professional Goals in 2013

It’s time to make some changes this year. And if you’re not sure what kind of career resolution you should set for yourself, take a look at this list, and pick one or more!

1. Find a work mentor
2. Organize a volunteer activity
3. Record your achievements
4. Ask your boss for feedback
5. Set monthly goals
6. Remove the clutter from your desk
7. Be more prompt about answering emails
8. Find a new work buddy
9. Send more professional emails
10. Lend a hand to a co-worker
11. Take on a new responsibility
12. Ask for a promotion
13. Take a class that will help you with work
14. Go to more networking events
15. Update your LinkedIn profile
16. Delegate more
17. Organize work socials
18. Plan further in advance
19. Take vacation time
20. Wake up earlier
21. Send thank-you cards to show appreciation
22. Take a short break in the afternoon for a walk
23. Focus on the positives of work instead of the negatives
24. Read books related to your field
25. Find a better system for organizing emails
26. Offer to mentor someone
27. Pack your lunch for work
28. Do a better job of managing
29. Avoid office gossip
30. Take public transportation to work
31. Cut back on caffeine and sugar during work hours
32. Give positive and constructive feedback to co-workers
33. Ask for more feedback from peers
34. Don’t do work on vacation unless required
35. Don’t relay important news over email
36. File your expenses on time
37. Turn in projects before their deadlines
38. Seek out work when you have downtime
39. Take advantage of health benefits
40. Join your local Toastmasters

Best food post a workout

The inter-connection between food and fitness is always of tremendous interest to me.
Many people put little emphasis on mindfully choosing the right food and get what they need after an intense workout. Ironically though, that meal, in fact, is the most important meal for those physically active people who care about their health and well-being.

I used to have the same misconception and neglected the importance of specific nutrition absorbed right after gym. It got me so uneasy that I finally started to research a little more… Now with bits of relevant knowledge backed up by science, I feel more confident and in control of my diet after gym.
Hopefully after reading the following sources of articles, you would benefit as much as I do.

For Midday workout

  • Salad with lean protein (chicken), beans and veggies, salad dressing
  • Sandwich with soup

For Evening workout

Pre workout

  • Mixed fruit bowl with yogurt and a few nuts
  • Low-fat or nonfat latte and a Kashi granola bar
  • Banana with peanut butter
  • Trail mix

Dinner afterwards:

  • Stir-fry shrimp, brown rice
  • Sweet potato, 4 oz. sliced steak, broccoli
  • 1 cup penne pasta with 4 oz. chicken and spinach in oil

Avoid these foods which can interfere with your workout:

  • Spicy foods
  • Broccoli or beans
  • High-fat foods
  • High-protein foods

Above is the most satisfying answer to my curiosity.

The original source from: http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23058659/ns/today-today_health/t/eat-right-foods-after-workout/

There are some other helpful ones, not specifically targeted to the timing. But you may find some similar pattern in them:


  • hummus+pita
  • yogurt+berry
  • tuna+whole wheat bread
  • turkey+cheese+ apple slice (eat only sandwich filling – that’s a great idea!)
  • whey protein shake



  • salmon+spinach+sweet potato
  • tuna+brown rice+ veggie
  • chicken+mix veggie
  • egg omelet+avocado


The final one is about the repetition like above, but it’s APPORTIONED:

  • Protein shake made with half of a banana, one scoop of protein powder, almond milk, and hemp seeds (excellent protein source)
  • Salad with roasted chickpeas (½ cup), light olive oil and vinegar
  • Sautéed or steamed vegetables (1 cup) with non-GMO tofu (½ cup)
  • Quinoa bowl (1 cup) with black berries (1 cup) and pecans (1/4 cup)
  • Multi-grain bread (2 slices) with raw peanut butter (2 Tbsp) and agave nectar
  • Burrito with beans (½ cup), brown rice (½ cup), guacamole (2 Tbsp), and salsa


In sum, here’s the Golden Rule for you:

Protein plus Carb, but NOT fat. Because fat would be slowing down the digestion of protein and carbs.

Now, hope you, my dear reader, won’t be in the dilemma of what to eat post gym any longer!

#Be smart and enjoy Guilt-free Eating!!